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A couple of days ago I was in a store trying something on, when I heard someone say from outside my change-room,
“That’s not you!”
The comment, not directed at me, came from one of two women who were also trying things on in the common area.
The puzzled response was, “Oh, you don’t think so?”
I was intrigued. I was wondering what one of the women had on, that made the other say that she didn’t think it was her.
When I left my cubicle I discovered the piece in question was a camel colored trench coat. I thought it looked quite nice.
The thing is, how can someone tell you – what’s you. Only you know that. Even if these women had been friends for 40 years or they were mother and daughter, nobody can tell you what you like.
In the same way that nobody can tell you whether you like mushrooms, floral perfumes or the sound of Justin Beibers music, nobody can tell you what your style is. Only you know that.
..and if you don’t then you should spend some time figuring it out, otherwise you, like this lady in the change-room, will rely on others to tell you what to wear.
(Which can then result in filling your wardrobe in someone else’s style)
In the case of these two women, a better thing to say, would have been – “How do you feel? “Is that your style?” And let the friend work out for herself whether the piece felt right and worked for her or not.
*Certainly there’s nothing wrong with asking a friend or someone working in a store what they think of how it looks on you, BUT you have to be careful when you request that advice. Remember they’re looking through their eyes, with their own style, not with your style in mind.
For example: Imagine for a moment two people looking at Picasso’s Weeping Woman (above). One might think it’s incredible and the other might think it’s hideous. Both are right!
It’s quite possible in the case of these two women, that the friend giving advice didn’t like the piece or how it looked on her friend. But just because that’s how she sees it, doesn’t mean she’s right.
It’s all about perception.
This is why shopping with friends, family members, etc, can be fun….but sometimes tricky.
READ: “The Lightbulb Moment When I Realised My Personal Style Did Not Include Wearing Pretty Soft Floaty Dresses”here