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When I finished up working at the bank, I was a little shell shocked and unsure of my next step forward. I had no idea what my new career would be, all I did know was that I wanted to work with women helping them to feel good about themselves. I wanted to support and inspire women to realise their potential, to live fulfilled lives and chase their dreams. I just had no idea how I would do that. Seeking some guidance I asked around for recommendations and then I contacted Belinda Merry and asked her if she would help me. And that she did. She was the one who suggested I could make a difference to the lives of women by sharing my knowledge for style, fashion and beauty. I could create a career where I would combine my styling skills, with my life and listening skills and the professional skills I’d acquired through years working in banking & finance and inspire women to look and feel the best they could – which would in turn promote confidence and self esteem. Without Belinda listening to me, understanding what I was passionate about and knowing what I wanted to achieve, I would never have considered going down this career path.
A couple of weeks ago Belinda emailed me and told me she had some exciting news. I read her story with a little lump in my throat and asked her if she would share how she made her dream come to fruition, to all the ladies who read my blog and are not only single and wanting to meet a mate, but women in general who have dreams and goals they want to fulfil.
This is what Belinda wrote…
It was late November 2009 when a colleague ran a Prepare for 2010 workshop. At the time I enrolled I really didn’t know what it was, but I was attracted to it and respected my colleague. So, I turned up on a Sunday, met my fellow participants, enjoyed the homemade morning tea, and then we began in earnest. Firstly, we mediated to get clear, then we wrote about where we had been, where we were now and where we wanted to go. After a delicious lunch our facilitator produced a pile of magazines, scissors, glue, and poster cardboard… we were going to make Vision Boards…
My Vision Board was on pink poster cardboard with lots of pictures of a healthy slim woman skiing and snowboarding; travelling the world; living in a home with a pool; connecting to friends and family; and a picture of a bride, a diamond ring and the words Prince Charming. As a divorcee in my early 40’s I wanted to have another relationship in my life. I didn’t like being single… I was lonely even though I had friends. I wanted a special friend. Eventually we completed our Vision Boards, shared them with each other, had a lovely homemade afternoon tea and departed full of hope for the coming year.
I put my Vision Board on my office wall so I could see it each day, yet I didn’t focus on it too much, I simply noticed it and reaffirmed what I wanted to manifest. I did know not to worry about the HOW… that is HOW am I going to attract all this? I knew to focus on the emotions and feelings realising my Vision Board would bring.
The previous year I had met a man on a plane flight from Adelaide to Melbourne. He remembered me from university. During our short flight we discussed what we were doing now and how our mutual friends from uni were doing. At one stage he dropped into the conversation “It’s such a pity about Don’s marriage breakdown”. That sentence may not mean much to you but to me it was the beginning of a journey reconnecting with Don, my boyfriend from uni and my true love. It broke my heart when we broke up back in the‘80’s (when he had hair and I was wrinkle free!). All of a sudden sitting on that plane I felt like a 17 year old again and my heart was beating with the hope that perhaps I could see Don again. Like a woman possessed, as soon as I got out of the plane and in the taxi, I texted Don a very brief message…
“I hear you are divorced – so am I”
I then looked obsessively at my phone for the next 3 hours. Finally he sent back screens and screens of text saying he would love to see me again. To cut a long story short we started to see each other again which was quite difficult given we lived over 3 hours apart and he had 3teenage sons. We did manage to see each other once or twice a month.
About a year after I had made my Vision Board, we were in the car and I broached the subject of marriage. Here is what Don said “I’m never ever getting married again”. True to form I did what any 40+ year old woman would do…. burst into tears. I was shocked. So I worked with my own coach on how to handle this. I wanted to give Don space yet I wanted to hang on to my vision of the bride, the ring and Prince Charming – this time to the man I truly loved and adored… and had for 30 years. Over 12 months later I mentioned it again to Don and low and behold he said he had changed his mind. I asked when he changed his mind and he said about 2 months after we spoke about it initially! So now, three years and two months after creating my Vision Board I can share with you that Don proposed to me with a beautiful engagement ring… and I said YES.
UPDATE: My own vision board (which I shared with you here ) after hearing Belinda’s story, now has a photo of Prince Charming and a bride and I keep it somewhere that I can see it every day.
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