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I received an S.O.S SMS from a girlfriend this morning.
“Help!!! I bought a dress online. Black chiffon with a ¾ sleeve with lace and just a sack on me. I did all the measurements and it fits but it is the wrong style for me. I am ashamed to say that it was very expensive”
Immediately I called her because I knew the dress she was talking about was for a function she was going to tomorrow and I knew she had taken my advice and shopped online. So I felt some responsibility. When I spoke to her she said she’d done everything I’d told her to do.
- Taken her measurements to make sure it would fit
- Enquired about the return policy
- Asked questions about the fit
- Checked how long delivery would take
- Made sure the dress was in keeping with the image she wanted to portray
- Asked herself whether she’d be able to wear it in different ways and therefore be able to wear it on several occasions
She did everything I told her to do, BUT it soon became apparent during our chat, that she had neglected to ask herself (possibly the biggest and most important question)
“Will this dress flatter my shape?”
When the dress arrived, promptly and conveniently to her doorstep and she excitedly tried it on, the answer was no. The dress did not flatter her shape. In fact it did the opposite. It made her appear bigger and boobier, than she is. She “looked like a sack of potatoes”. The fact is, she actually has a very voluptuous, womanly figure that would look amazing dressed in the right style and fabric. But a dress like the one she had purchased made her look completely shapeless. Her boobs were squashed, making them look larger than they are, her neck looked short and her face looked chubby. Worse still was the dress was over $300. This is a lot of money for her. She can’t afford to make costly shopping mistakes.
She’d finally taken my advice and bought something online and it hadn’t worked out. Certainly I felt a little bit bad that I’d encouraged her to dabble in online shopping and on this occasion it hadn’t worked out, but I reminded her that the most important thing when shopping in stores, online and even in your own wardrobe, if you want to find something to wear that makes you look and feel great, is to wear something that flatters your particular body shape
Fortunately, after she emailed me a photo of herself wearing the dress, I was able to give her a few ideas, (with the use of some cleverly placed accessories and a suitably shaped jacket) as to how she could make the dress work for her so she could wear it tomorrow. But I was very quick to remind her that if she didn’t want to continue to waste her money on bad buys, she needed to learn and understand the styles that suited her body shape best. Then she needed to get into the habit of assessing every part of the garment, until it became second nature and she knew immediately as soon as she put something on whether it was right or wrong for her. Otherwise, she was going to have a huge wardrobe full of lots of clothes that cost her a lot of money and that didn’t make her feel good about herself.
Ask yourself, are the clothes in your wardrobe making you look like the voluptuous, curvaceous, attractive woman that you are or are they making you look like a frumpy, shapeless sack of potatoes?