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I know I’ve talked about hair before, but I think it’s something some of us need a gentle little nudge and reminder about, so I’m going to talk about it again. The reason that we need to focus in on our hair from time to time is that like anything to do with most of us women – how we look, how we live our lives – many of us get stuck in a rut and it’s not until a lovely friend or family member (or friendly stylist) suggests we take care of ourselves and put ourselves first for a bit, that we sit up and take notice and make US a priority.
For me it’s cooking and eating. It’s not that I don’t eat - I do…I love food – it’s just that I can go for weeks and then I stop and think, Goodness, when was the last time I ate a piece of meat or sometimes I’ll be running around the shops all day and at 4pm remember that I didn’t stop for lunch. It’s not intentional, it’s just that I don’t make it a priority and I forget sometimes, until someone (like my lovely friend who arrived at my place yesterday with a coffee, a muffin and some sushi for my lunch, because she knew I was working solidly and would more than likely forget to stop to eat) pulls me up and reminds me I need to take the time and cook and eat properly.
For others it can be that we need reminding that we’re neglecting our image and our look – which of course, in turn makes us feel lousy and bad about ourselves and affects our confidence. For some it’s clothes, others it’s make- up and too often it’s hair.
- We don’t have time to sit still in a salon for 2 hours
- We don’t trust anyone to touch our hair
- We’re waiting until we lose weight before we worry about what our hair looks like
- Everyone else in the family needs… a fancy birthday party, an iPod, a new pair of the latest sport shoes, piano lessons, ballet classes, gifts to take to birthday parties and haircuts, before we do
- We’ve had the same, safe style for so long, we’re too scared to change it
- We hate spending that sort of money on ourselves
- We think nobody looks at us anyway. We may as well just tie it up and forget about it
We can all relate to one of these. Until recently I hadn’t had a haircut in about 6 months. My hairstylist went on maternity leave and I didn’t trust anybody else. So I colored it myself and cut my fringe with my nail scissors. Not a good look – particularly for a personal stylist. I hoped that nobody noticed my lopsided fringe , but I’m sure they did and were too polite to comment. I was also putting all of my money into my business and not wanting to spend any on myself – which in actual fact was affecting my brand – which is me.
I realised when my hair stylist came back to work and I visited her for a much needed overhaul, just how much better I feel about myself and how much more confident I am when I’m happy with how my hair looks.
While Suzi was attempting to fix my hacked at fringe, I told her about one of my clients who has not cut or colored her hair in more than 40 years – which was aging her beyond her years and preventing her from seeing the possibilities – and I asked her for some advice as to how I could guide my clients who feel they want to update their look but feel too nervous to, and this is what she said:
“A really great way to update your look is to shift the colour with the changing seasons. It could be as simple as warming up the tones in Autumn and going into winter! Also consider going lighter in the cooler months, when we are wearing lot’s of dark clothing, and slightly deeper in the warmer months when skin is glowing and bright. A new hair look doesn’t have to come about overnight. You can gradually change your hair over a few visits to the salon. Whether with your existing stylist, or a new one, develop a “plan’ for your hair to evolve.”
When was the last time you updated your (hair) look?
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