Mean Girls – Are You One Of Them?

I bet you’ve never thought of yourself as a mean girl.

You’re loving, kind, supportive and encouraging to everyone you know.

BUT

What about yourself?

Are you loving, kind, supportive, compassionate and encouraging to you ……or are you mean?

Fat, flab, short, too skinny, saggy, too pale, old, too tall, wobbly, too freckly, bulges, chunky and wrinkly.

They’re nasty, ugly, bullying words.  When we use them to describe ourselves they conjure up images in our minds and they make us feel lousy.

I’ve heard and seen them all – in the fitting rooms and on my questionnaires.

“I hate my flabby arms”

“I’d love to wear dresses but I have too many fat rolls on my stomach”

“I can’t wear skinny jeans because of my short chunky legs”

Mean, mean and mean.

How can you possibly feel good when you speak to yourself like that.

Why do we do it? Why do we refer to ourselves in such an awful way. We’d never speak to one of our loved ones like that, so why do we treat the one person we should love and care about the most, in such a cruel way?

I’m challenging you to stop.  At least for one month.  For the next 30 days every time you find yourself about to refer to you in a negative way using an unkind word, pull yourself up and choose another word to use.

Be conscious of your vocabulary and see if you can break the self critical habit.

Instead of using one of those ugly words replace it with something like…

Voluptuous, Curvaceous, Soft, Statuesque, Petite, Mature, Athletic, Lean, Fabulous, etc, etc..

You get the picture..now give it a try.

*You might like to read this interesting piece on Gwyneth Paltrow’s, Goop newsletter titled, Figure of Speech: How The Words We Choose Shape Our Lives.

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