MEAGHAN SMITH PERSONAL STYLIST

Sometimes it’s not until we try something different, that we realise the impact clothes can have on how we feel about ourselves.

I have had ladies burst into tears in the changeroom after they’ve seen themselves in a great pair of jeans. They had no idea they could wear that particular style, let alone how they would feel when they saw themselves in them.

Looking your best and feeling stylish can help you be more confident and self assured, while wearing the wrong clothes can have the opposite effect,  so it saddens me when I hear some of the reasons women have for giving up on themselves. These are just some of the excuses I’ve heard…

• “I’m old now. Nothing looks good on me”
• “I’m too fat to look good in clothes”
• “I’ve got no one to dress nicely for”
• “Everything I like is too expensive”
• “Once my kids leave home I’ll have time and money to spend on myself”
• “I’d love you to come and look in my wardrobe and help me clean it out and show me how to wear what I have, but I’m too embarrassed to let you see inside it”
• “I don’t have the time and patience to shop”
• “There’s no point in me trying to look stylish at the moment while I have small kids.  I always end up with food or vomit on my top and I can’t run around after a 3 year old in stilettos”

Are you telling yourself you’re not worth it?  Are you thinking you’re beyond help?  Are you stopping yourself from looking and feeling the best you can?

Of course not all of us have the money to spend on new clothes, (high maintenance) hairstyles and makeup and not all of us have lots of time to go shopping, but there are small things you can do that require little time and little investment that will make a big difference.

It’s upsetting when I talk to someone who thinks that “it’s all too hard” and they have given up on themselves. 

All of us deserve to feel good about ourselves at every stage of our lives.

It might be that you need to stop wearing sloppy unflattering comfy clothes, maybe your  hems needs taking up, (or going down) perhaps you could do with a new bra or lippy, or having your eyebrows shaped.  Maybe all that you need is in your wardrobe, you just can’t find it for the clutter.  I’m here to tell you (& encourage you) that baby steps can make a big difference.

Promise me, you won’t ever give up on yourself and remember that I am here to help if you need some motivation, support and guidance.

READ: “It’s Not Just About The Clothes” here

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As if the prospect of re-entering the workforce is not daunting enough, often when women want to return to work after they’ve had a long break, they are faced with the issue of what to wear.

Not only could you be confronted with the fact that the clothes you used to wear no longer fit or are no longer flattering, there is also the dilemma as to whether any of your clothes are still “in fashion” and therefore suitable for work.

It may also be that you don’t have a big budget to buy new clothes for your work wardrobe when you first start back – so clever thought and planning are needed.

The trick is to be as resourceful as you can. Play around with items that still work in your wardrobe and think about what could be added to them to create different outfits.

For example, you may have an old black skirt which is still in great condition, but the shape is now outdated.  Think about whether you may be able to take it to a tailor (or if you’re handy with a machine, do it yourself) and have it remodeled and modernised.

These days a suit is not always required for interviews and work places. As long as you are well groomed, in well fitting coordinated pieces and smart accessories, that’s all you need.

Here are a few things to consider (before panic sets in) about what to wear and how to update your look, when you return to work …

• Don’t go out and buy a whole new wardrobe before you start. Wait until you get a feel for the culture and environment of your new workplace. Some places can be very casual and others quite formal.  Look to the way your manager dresses for guidance.
• Go along to your hairdresser and get a great cut. This will immediately give you a confidence boost.  (This is my hairstylist if you want to try someone new)
• More than likely if your work shoes haven’t been pulled out of the cupboard for a while, you’ll need a new pair.  If your old shoes are still suitable, make sure they look new with a polish and maybe even a re-sole.  *Whatever you do, don’t wear your shoes like this.
• Perhaps you already have a great handbag, but it might be a bit neglected and in need of some TLC. Think about either taking it to be restored or giving it a polish yourself. If you don’t have a good quality handbag, consider investing in one.  It’ll instantly add polish to your look.  Consider a color that goes with about 80% of your wardrobe.
• If you don’t already own a pair, invest in black pants.  If you like to wear both flats and heels, opt for a style that works with both.
• Refresh whites that have been sitting in the cupboard for a while
• Consider a flattering pair of dark denim jeans for casual Fridays. Team them with a blazer and ankle boots for winter/wedges or pumps for summer.

Need help with your work wardrobe, details of my styling services can be found here

More of my style tips (including how to de-pill your knits, clean your boots, etc) can be found here and here (In the “Highlights”)

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I’ve never once looked in the mirror and thought, “Gee I’ve got good hair”.   In fact quite the opposite.  It’s thin, frizzy, lifeless, and I have a cowlick in the front which makes it difficult to control the fringe.  Through the years I’ve tried many different colors and styles, trying to come up with something I was happy with.  It wasn’t until I found my current hairstylist that I finally started to learn how to wear it so that I was comfortable with how it looked.

When I look through past photos of me and my various hairstyles, (after I cringe) I can recall exactly where I was in my life and how I was feeling at the time. I got a perm when I was in high school because it was the “cool” thing at the time – and of course I wanted to be accepted and liked, so I followed the crowd.  I cut all my hair off when I had a relationship breakup – to start afresh and to tell the world I was grown up and didn’t give a damn if “boys don’t like girls with short hair”.  The blonde streaks were (the nineties) when I was struggling with insecurity and identity – trying to be somebody I wasn’t.

Aside from the few sprouting greys and the constant battle to make it look thicker than it is, today I feel pretty content with my hair.  I’m comfortable that it represents me and who I am. It’s pretty close to the natural color, I try to work with it, rather than against it, I purposely spend less time with the blow dryer and I comfortably feel that I don’t need to conform to a style or a look for anyone else.

What does your hair say about you?

In the same way that your clothes and your style represent who you are, the cut, the style, the condition and the color of your hair can tell a story about you without you even opening your mouth. Your hairstyle can reveal a lot about your personality.  Your hair could be saying….

• I don’t like change
• I couldn’t care less what you think
• I’m petrified of ageing and desperately trying to hold on to my youth
• Life is a bit out of control at the moment
• I’m easy going, playful, adventurous and fun
• I’m not really sure how I want to look
• I can’t be bothered
• I’m comfortable with my age
• I’m in control
• I’m self conscious and insecure
• I don’t make time for myself/I’m not a priority/The way I look is not a priority
• I’m a nonconformist/I’m rebellious

Is that what you want it to say?

READ: “Time For A Hair Change?”  here

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 I received an S.O.S text message from a girlfriend this morning.

“Help!!!  I bought a dress online.  Black chiffon with a ¾ sleeve with lace and just a sack on me.  I did all the measurements and it fits but it is the wrong style for me. I am ashamed to say that it was very expensive”

Immediately I called her because I knew the dress she was talking about was for a function she was going to tomorrow and I knew she had taken my advice and shopped online. So I felt some responsibility.  When I spoke to her she said she’d done everything I’d told her to do.

• Taken her measurements to make sure it would fit
• Enquired about the return policy
• Asked questions about the fit
• Checked how long delivery would take
• Made sure the dress was her style
• Asked herself whether she’d be able to wear it in different ways and therefore be able to wear it on several occasions

She did everything I told her to do, BUT it soon became apparent during our chat, that she had neglected to ask herself (possibly the biggest and most important question)

“Will this dress flatter my shape?”

When the dress arrived, promptly and conveniently to her doorstep and she excitedly tried it on, the answer was no.  The dress did not flatter her shape.  In fact it did the opposite.  It made her appear bigger and boobier, than she is.  She “looked like a sack of potatoes”.  The fact is, she actually has a very voluptuous, womanly figure that would look amazing dressed in the right style and fabric.  But a dress like the one she had purchased made her look completely shapeless. Her boobs were squashed, making them look larger than they are, her neck looked short and her face looked chubby.  Worse still was the dress was over $300. This is a lot of money for her. Like most of us, she can’t afford to make costly shopping mistakes.

She’d finally taken my advice and bought something online and it hadn’t worked out. Certainly I felt a little bit bad that I’d encouraged her to dabble in online shopping and on this occasion it hadn’t worked out, but I reminded her that the most important thing when shopping in stores, online and even in your own wardrobe, if you want to find something to wear that makes you look and feel great, is to wear something that flatters your particular body shape

Fortunately, after she emailed me a photo of herself wearing the dress, I was able to give her a few ideas, (with the use of some cleverly placed accessories and a suitably shaped jacket) as to how she could make the dress work for her so she could wear it tomorrow.  But I was very quick to remind her that if she didn’t want to continue to waste her money on bad buys, she needed to learn and understand the styles that suited her body shape best.  Then she needed to get into the habit of assessing every part of the garment, until it became second nature and she knew immediately as soon as she put something on whether it was right or wrong for her.  Otherwise, she was going to have a huge wardrobe full of clothes that cost her a lot of money and that didn’t make her feel good about herself.

Ask yourself, are the clothes in your wardrobe making you look like the voluptuous, curvaceous, attractive woman that you are or are they making you look like a frumpy, shapeless sack of potatoes?

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